Adjusting your attitude, simlifying your life, and nurturing yourself



Attitude

-Set realistic expectations; drop the Superman/Superwoman image -Work toward developing assertive communication rather than being reactive or passive -Practice positive self talk; learn to look at stressful situations as opportunities to improve your life -Develop flexibility; eliminate blame and criticism -Express appreciation of self and others -Let others help you-instruct them of specific things they can do to help -Inject humor to relieve tension -When you notice that you are putting yourself or someone else down, “awfulizing” things, and globalizing (“never”;” always”, etc, referring to people or situations), tell yourself to STOP. Remind yourself “this is not true because…” (And find at least one reason why it is totally untrue).

Simplify

-Plan your day; organize your priorities and do what is important first realizing that less important things can wait -Keep your responsibilities and obligations, outside of work, at a minimum -Cut back on some activities and delegate tasks -Organize your home and workspace so that you know where things are located -Keep out a lot of “should”, “ought’s”, and “have to” phrases, in your thoughts and language -At home, have a family meeting during the week to talk, plan and implement chore assignments (based on their capabilities) -Don’t expect to mind read what others want. Instead, be clear and concise in your instructions and requests. Seek clarity from others.

Nurture

-Eat a nutritious breakfast and lunch. Consider munching on fruits and veggies during snack breaks -Practice deep breathing: sit comfortably in your; inhale slowly and deeply through your nose. Feel your chest expand and your abdomen draw in. Hold your breath for approximately 3-5 seconds and slowly exhale to the count of 5 seconds. Repeat 2-3 times. Because the body responds to stress through shallow, rapid breathing, oxygen becomes constricted. Breathing exercises help to “turn on” relaxation and blood flow -Reduce or eliminate caffeine beverages like colas, coffee, and some teas. Caffeine is a stimulant and it can cause you to feel more anxious. -Avoid or reduce the use of tobacco, alcohol, and recreational drugs -Read a good book; watch an upbeat DVD or movie -Get a massage; manicure; pedicure; fragrant bath -Take a walk, a hike, bike, swim, etc. -Take mini-breaks during your workday: stretch, walk, etc. -Take up a hobby -Keep a journal to write your worries or things that are going well, or what you are doing to manage stress, etc. -Give a hug. Get a hug.



This information is not to be used for treatment, diagnoses, or any other means other than that of informing the reader of basic on the above issue.